Let’s start with the two most important links of this article:
- CNN featuring that Yale’s Massively Popular Happiness Course is FREE.
- Happiness can better be found in Positive Psychology. This site is dedicated to it.
So what is happiness?
I don’t know. Neither do you. The Dalai Lama doesn’t know, not the 14th one or the 1st one. Sure, you can try and add a definition to it, but that’s like trying to define love. Happiness is felt. Let me say that again: happiness can’t be defined; happiness is felt. Before, we talked about how thoughts aren’t real, but emotions are real. Words are just that: words. Some words have tangible feelings attached. But how do you get that feeling?
How about some top 10 lists?
When talking about happiness, top 10 lists seem to be prevalent. Here, let me help you. Here are some of my favorite top 10 lists to be happy:
- The Observer’s secret to happiness in 10 specific behaviors.
- Positive Psychology’s site with 10 tips to be happy at work.
- Stuck in quarantine because of COVID-19? Psychology Today has happiness tips.
(Speaking of quarantine and coronavirus, why are my dreams so vivid right now?)
Happiness is throwing your hands in the air
No, happiness is not throwing your hands in the air. I just liked those pictures. They looked happy to me. I mean, sunflowers and bubbles? How cool is that?
But, what the f*ck is happiness? There are 2 million books about how to be happy (again, not defining happiness, just how to get there). I’ve done the hard work for you. I’ve read about ten of them. I’ve also read about ten articles about the top 10 reasons to be happy. I thought about giving you my own top 10 list to be happy, but I thought of 10 reasons not to do a top 10 list. You’re welcome.
Here’s the gist:
- Choose yourself. I mean it. If you don’t love you, you won’t be able to love others.
- Love others. Look at step one. Repeat. Repeat again. Then move to love others.
- Be mindful. Pay attention with your eyes, your ears, and even your mouth. Feel.
- Enjoy the process. Remember, choose yourself. It’s about journey, not outcome.
- Focus. Set your path, the path that YOU choose, and give yourself to it. Love it.
Yes, we can write volumes to find that path, but really that path is inside of you. Only you know what that path is. Every day, wake up and choose yourself. What do you want to work on? How are you taking action TODAY? What have you done today to choose yourself?
And if that doesn’t make you happy, then maybe this video will: