Here’s the thing: we are all different, yet we are all trying to be the same. We try to assimilate into our social groups. We want to fit in and belong. We go to work and put on the uniform, or we join a team to wear unified colors, or we head out to the social gathering hoping to blend into the scene. On the outside, we are social chameleons. On the inside, we are unique creatures with our own identity made of likes, interests, fascinations, and motivators. If we are so incredibly different, then why do we try so damn hard to conform?
You’re not an imposter.
You are an extraordinary individual. Dare I say it? You are worthy! If there’s one thing you get out of this article, I want you to know this. Again, you are worthy! If I had enough resources, I would hire an aircraft that would fly circles around your house for the next year. The plane would have the phrase “[your name] is worthy!” But I can’t hire a skywriter for you, so I need you to remind yourself. Do it however you are comfortable: look at yourself in the mirror; give yourself a giant hug; pat yourself on the head and rub your tummy–do whatever feels right to you. Then repeat this over and over and over until YOU believe it: I AM WORTHY.
Imposture syndrome sucks. Let me help you out. You are where you are because you are to be there. You belong. This moment is yours. It was created since the beginning of time to belong to you. Let’s celebrate! Still don’t believe me? Let’s review:
- You aren’t currently in jail for being a fraud.
- You can answer at least half of the questions people ask you.
- You just took some breaths in and out.
- You did it again. You breathed.
- You haven’t exploded into millions of pieces.
- The universe still exists.
Some of this is tongue-in-cheek, but a lot of it is the facts, Jack (or Sue, or whatever your name is). The universe existed before you entered your physical body. It will be around after you leave your physical body. And the best part of all: the universe conspired to help you get to where you are now. It’s yours. Own it.
Fake it until you make it.
Scratch that. Be who you are, from the inside, until you become who you want to be. Remember the banner from before? Jack (or Sue, or whatever your name is) is worthy. You bring uniqueness into this world that makes you beautiful. People (yes, I’m speaking for all of the human race) don’t want to look at carbon copies of themselves. I don’t want to see everyone behaving like me. That is boring. I want some flavor. I want to see and experience different colors and textures all around me. Don’t be afraid to show us your true self.
Here, let’s give you an acronym to showcase your FREAK self:
- F – find your heart’s passion
- R – recognize what belongs to you
- E – energize yourself in the journey
- A – accept whatever may come
- K – kindness to yourself, always
So, how about it? Will you let your freak flag fly? You’re worthy. You belong. Why not give it a shot and see how your life goes?