Here is Why You Need to Ask More Questions.

Being a kid is cool. Here’s what sucks: you’re not a kid. Somewhere along the line, you lost the zeal for wonder, exploration, and inquisitiveness. You stopped questioning the reality around you. You accept everyday happenings as fact. And now you are a boring adult walking around the world, living your days without zest and full of repetition. Don’t be mad. So am I. It stinks. 

Let’s change this. It will be easy. To no longer be a boring adult, change your punctuation to ask more questions. How about a few examples? You could start your morning by saying, “I need to complete my to-do list today.” Or, you could change the period to a question mark, “I need to complete my to-do list today?” (A little side note, I’ve been Spanish as a second language and have noticed slight differences in sentences based solely on inflection and punctuation. In English, to properly change my example sentence, adding the word “do” along with adding a “?” is needed. But you get the point.)

You’re never too old to ask questions.

No, I can’t promise you a fountain of youth. I can’t reverse time and make high school ideal for you. However, we can do something together. We can capture the time we have now. You know, “be in the moment.” If you need to, grab a journal and write down the crap you take for granted every single day of your life. 

This life is your life, stop living it on autopilot. 

 Allow me to give you some examples of sentences I’ve regurgitated to myself during the day:

  • I need X hours of sleep, so I am going to bed at Y o’clock and will set my alarm for Z o’clock.
  • I’m going to be quiet and listen to my boss and do what they tell me to do.
  • Path A is the best route to drive to work.
  • Reading is important. I am going to read a particular type of book.
  • Power corrupts. 
  • The love of money is the root of all evil.

What did you notice? Some of those are assumptions that we inherited from a silent social contract that we never read, nor signed. Some of these are pieces of advice that we’ve gained from friends or family. And, some of these we read in sacred scripture. 

Yes, you can even question scripture.

Is there where I lose you? I’m not trying to make you mad, I promise. I’m trying to help you get to a play of strength and clarity. What happens when you turn “the love of money is the root of all evil” to a question? A few things happen:

  • You discover the source of the statement.
  • You discover the truth of the statement.
  • You discover your personal belief about the statement.
  • You discover the power (or lack thereof) of the statement.

Is ALL evil founded on the love of money? What about loving money begets evil tendencies? How can I pair the enjoyment of making money with doing good? Will carrying a $100 bill in my pocket turn me into Hitler?

Now, what about the other questions? What happens if I take a different route to work? What if I advise my boss? Will my world shatter if I choose to watch reality TV instead of reading the latest New York Times bestseller? 

Let’s start our day out with an empowering question: 

Through the questions I ask myself, how will I make today different than yesterday?

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