What’s the Price of Showing Up?

Hiding is cheap, but what’s the cost? When I hide, I feel cheap. I feel worthless. The question is, from what are we hiding? Are there insecurities or fears that get in our way of showing up and being ourselves? Try to imagine a full day of being your true self. How would that look? How do you think you’d feel?

Showing up is expensive, but the phrase “you get what you pay for” is true. The higher cost you pay in the things of life, the more reward you’ll gain. The trick is: don’t expect a particular prize. Remember, you didn’t earn it. An opportunity was your gift; you chose to open it or not. You’ll ALWAYS be disappointed if you think you know what’s inside the gift of opportunity. But, expectations are a topic for another day. Today is about opening the opportunity or not.

The world becomes smaller when you show up

When you show up, your compassion grows, and the world becomes smaller. You see other people as failable, yet human. More importantly, you see yourself in those other humans. That’s not cheap. The more time you spend opening opportunities to show compassion, the less you’ll have to spend on worrying about yourself. The question, “am I loveable?” turns into, “do I love enough?” Soon, you’ll find yourself investing in compassionate deeds more and selfish acts less. It’s addicting.

Showing up shrivels your fear account

A popular Eleanor Roosevelt quote is, “do one thing every day that scares you.” She didn’t say this. Instead, she said something much better. She said, “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.'” 

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ – Eleanor Roosevelt

To show up is scary. The good news is: the more you face your fears, the smaller your fears become. Heck yeah, it is scary to ask a stranger why they are crying. And hell yeah, it’s downright terrifying to hug a stranger (especially during this day, but before COVID). The point is, the more you do it, the less afraid you become. Invest more in boldness; withdraw from fear.

Karma is a bitch, but she can also be a queen

I know, you let someone cut in front of you in the grocery store line, and now you want karma’s blessings. Before you sell all your worldly possessions to feed the poor (and secretly grow rich), don’t. Karma (and this is why she’s referred to as a female) has fantastic intuition. She knows if you are playing the game. She knows your intent. 

Karma investments work like this: do things with pure intent, and you’ll get rewarded with a pleasant surprise. Expect a reward, and the opposite will happen. That’s how life works. Sorry, not sorry.

Your listening skills pay in dividends

When you have your ears tuned into the sounds of opportunity, you’ll hear its sounds more. The sound usually comes from within. Every time you respond to its hunches, it becomes easier to respond in the future. Opportunities are like that. Some people say, “the rich get richer,” but this is only true to people responding to opportunity. And, here, we are talking about the chance to show up for another human, being full of compassion. 

If you want to get rich in this life (and by now, I hope you realize I’m not talking about money), invest fully in showing up with compassion every time something knocks at your door. Yeah, opportunities are funny like that. You don’t have to go looking for them. They show up.

In the theme of this post, I thought about this song ‘Asleep in the Light’ by Keith Green. It’s a Christian song but applies to anyone, religious or not, that wants to give a damn. In it, Green talks about people that want blessings, but ignore opportunities to help. Green lived this life. He opened his house to strangers and did his best to do good in this world. He was tragically taken from us too early, but his song lives on.

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